tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546449356140982111.post7979605366912167246..comments2023-10-06T10:28:36.778+02:00Comments on Maartje van Hoorn: Self down lettence.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17927665667156383179noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546449356140982111.post-73660576372227418872007-05-04T00:12:00.000+02:002007-05-04T00:12:00.000+02:00I find it very hard to give advice here, though I ...I find it very hard to give advice here, though I would like to try.<BR/><BR/>Being 32, I only recently have begun to try and stop this self down lettence (a very good word, btw!). For example last week, when my boss started to develop a habit for standing behind me when working, and when asked, only said "I just wanted to look!". Well, I hated that. It made me feel like I was still a stupid little girl and he was the big teacher. But he is only three years older than me. So last week, I simply told him. I told him that I do not want him to do that, that I will willingly give him information if he just asks how this or that project is going. He totally couldn´t cope with it and acted childishly the days afterwards (he didn´t want to have his lunch break with me anymore... argh. Men.). By now, he has calmed down.<BR/><BR/>I don´t know if this can be an advice of some sort, but I think being brave and pushing oneself over some kinds of limits one has, is one of the biggest and most difficult challenges everone has to learn first. For some people it may mean saying "no" to other people, for others it may mean going to a course in England, like you. Now from what I read here, this is even a more huge endeavour for you than for other people. <BR/><BR/>Ah, now there is one piece of advice I read in my Kyudo book. The Japanese Samurai had a sentence for guidance when being at war. They were told to never think about what could happen. Because if they did, they possibly couldn´t shoot anymore, being afraid of not hitting.<BR/><BR/>Maybe this helps. But from my kind of view, I would say – give yourself time. You still have a lifetime to try. I know there is this view of "carpe diem" and all. But if it stresses you, it can´t be good either. Just keep it in mind, and work on it. Don´t be too hard on yourself.<BR/><BR/>All the best wishes for you,<BR/>NadineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com