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Friday, February 9

Internet: To what point do we have to take it seriously?

I've lately come to wonder about that, to what point do we have to take the internet seriously? A recent experience on the formerly mentioned Fratellis forum has led me to give it more thought.

I praised this forum into heaven and beyond in my last entry, I'll just tell you a bit more about my reasons now. I started out as a newbie, like everyone has to, but I was immediately 'taken into the family'. I felt appreciated on the forum, people praised me for my artistic skills, requested and commissioned for me to paint them something, even. Very soon, this forum felt like home. I'd ramble on there until the early hours, talking nonsense, of course, but also about the things that bring us all to the forum, good music, and the Fratellis. I felt like I had made good friends there within days.

What are you whining about, then? You might ask me that. Well, I'll tell you. Being liked on a forum makes you care, or me and least, what the other forummers think of you. You want them to continue liking you. Because, after all, you like to feel appreciated.
Yesterday, I posted a thread that didn't have anything to do with music or the band. It was in fact complete nonsense, that I had put on there to kill time. People replied to it, as they always do. But then, a couple of people lost it completely, shouting (with curses) how they thought it was 'the worst thread ever' and telling us, or me, as I felt at that particular point, to get a life. It was anything but a gentle request to stop posting nonsense. I felt stabbed, and felt like crying, really. I tried my hardest to make everyone like me, and this was what I got in return.

Soon, a general letter to the entire forum followed in which the same people who had lost their cool on my topic, inpolitely told people to stop ruining the forum. Many people seemed to agree, and some were upset by it, as well. Later, as I'd heard from the angry people, I found out that it was not aimed at me and that there had been rubbish on the forum for ages. They had been annoyed for ages and my thread just cut the wires.

My point being, really, is that I allowed myself to feel genuinely hurt by something that isn't said to my face, by people that I haven't met, or that have met me. I still feel like I'm getting to know them, however, which is why I get emotionally involved. Is it worth it? I ask myself. Do we not get hurt enough in the real world?

On the other side, people on the forum are very welcoming to the newbies, and try to keep so called rotten apples out. I wonder, I wonder, is it wrong to treat people on the internet the same as you do people in real life? Do I have to value them and their opinions any less than I do that of those I know in real life?

Questions, questions....


GuiGui said...

I would love to see posts like this - a personal view on multimedia - on
May I invite you to become a columnist?

TheUnknownPoet said...

Good you have invited her Guido. She is one of your best students of the year cause she combines 'essence', psychology and multimedia.

I have/had too much passion for history, physics, psychology and philosophy to go on with CMD...

...So I started psychology, although I am of course interested in multimedia(I studied last year on the HAN and this modern world didn't belong to me)

Guido, may I invite you as critic, 'sympathizer' or as 'lunacy himself' on:

For more information see 'comments'.

See also (for some english poetry)...

Annelies said...

Maart, I think the question is : Can you stop yourself being involved? Because I like to think I know you, and I think you will always treat friends you make over the internet exactly the same as you treat your 'real' friends. There are people who are like you and take everything they and others say on the internet seriously, but there are also people who don't, and I think the only thing you have to do is keep them apart. If somebody in real live had said to you what those people said on the forum, you would have felt hurt too. Only then they probably would have told you direktly that it was not pointed at you (alone) and you would have understood earlier. But the initial emotion would have been the same. Don't stop taking people serious only because of somebody yelling at you. Everybody likes you, really. The ones that don't just don't know you yet.